It's not always easy to do the right thing or to be who you feel that you are. But if you've been changing and sacrificing you to be accepted and loved by someone else just remember these famous words: "I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I'm not." When you start to live this message all the other shit just falls to the waste side. Stay beautiful!!!
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Friday, January 22, 2010
10 Breakup Depression Tips
No matter what anybody tells you, life is a big, flat out mess when you're dealing with a breakup. Every song playing on the radio is a boyfriend breakup song or a breakup girlfriend song. Every couple that you witness holding hands or kissing makes you dog mad. Your friends aren't helpful either because all they want you to do is get over it so everybody can just go back to having fun.
But, oddly, things are different for you. The smell of nature isn't the same and the sky has lost its luminous appeal. You feel heavy and worn out by life's ups and downs when it comes to love and you're at a loss of where to turn or what to do. Secretly, you make a pack with yourself to never be so stupid as to fall in love again.
Sadly, you continue on going throughout your days on automatic pilot feeling very sorry for yourself. You don't know the first thing about how to deal with a breakup or much less, how to get over someone. In the past when you've found yourself in this situation, you never reasoned your way out or tried a different approach. You just decided that that was the end and now you stand having lost more than you gain.
And to make matters worse, you sat around every chance you had and replayed that breakup line s/he fed you, over and over again in your head. How it wasn't that s/he didn't love you, but how s/he couldn't be with someone the family wouldn't approve of. You just don't understand why it is that your partner can't see why love between two people shouldn't be held prisoner by what others think.
You may feel that your partner will eventually come to see that your love is worth keeping but until that happens, what do you do in the meantime to ease the emotional pain that you're under? If you are depressed over a recent breakup and desperately need a release, implement these 10 breakup depression tips for immediate effect.
1. Do not text or call your ex
2. Make friends outside of your inner circle if they are also friends of your ex
3. Start making plans for your future
4. Take a vacation with friends or family
5. Begin a new hobby like indoor racquetball, darts, swimming, etc...
6. Start journaling so that you can have a place to express your inner thoughts
7. Let go of any resentment or anger you may feel towards your ex
8. If you see your ex, behave as if you have moved on with your life
9. Stop acting like a victim
10. Forgive yourself
Now keep in mind that by following these tips you may be summoning your ex to come back. The beauty about this plan of action is not only does it help you by getting you to own your power but it also puts you in a position of power. You are no longer at the beck and call of someone else. Instead, you choose your direction.
Felecia Townsend is a relationship enthusiast and personal coach. She has spent years learning the art of successful relationships and through her philanthropic writing is giving back to the community that has given her so much.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Felecia_Townsend
But, oddly, things are different for you. The smell of nature isn't the same and the sky has lost its luminous appeal. You feel heavy and worn out by life's ups and downs when it comes to love and you're at a loss of where to turn or what to do. Secretly, you make a pack with yourself to never be so stupid as to fall in love again.
Sadly, you continue on going throughout your days on automatic pilot feeling very sorry for yourself. You don't know the first thing about how to deal with a breakup or much less, how to get over someone. In the past when you've found yourself in this situation, you never reasoned your way out or tried a different approach. You just decided that that was the end and now you stand having lost more than you gain.
And to make matters worse, you sat around every chance you had and replayed that breakup line s/he fed you, over and over again in your head. How it wasn't that s/he didn't love you, but how s/he couldn't be with someone the family wouldn't approve of. You just don't understand why it is that your partner can't see why love between two people shouldn't be held prisoner by what others think.
You may feel that your partner will eventually come to see that your love is worth keeping but until that happens, what do you do in the meantime to ease the emotional pain that you're under? If you are depressed over a recent breakup and desperately need a release, implement these 10 breakup depression tips for immediate effect.
1. Do not text or call your ex
2. Make friends outside of your inner circle if they are also friends of your ex
3. Start making plans for your future
4. Take a vacation with friends or family
5. Begin a new hobby like indoor racquetball, darts, swimming, etc...
6. Start journaling so that you can have a place to express your inner thoughts
7. Let go of any resentment or anger you may feel towards your ex
8. If you see your ex, behave as if you have moved on with your life
9. Stop acting like a victim
10. Forgive yourself
Now keep in mind that by following these tips you may be summoning your ex to come back. The beauty about this plan of action is not only does it help you by getting you to own your power but it also puts you in a position of power. You are no longer at the beck and call of someone else. Instead, you choose your direction.
Felecia Townsend is a relationship enthusiast and personal coach. She has spent years learning the art of successful relationships and through her philanthropic writing is giving back to the community that has given her so much.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Felecia_Townsend
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Domestic Violence in Gay & Lesbian Relationships
Domestic violence in gay and in lesbian relationships in the GBLT (Gay, Transgender, Lesbian, Transvestite) community is just as prevalent as in straight relationships, but the victims are less likely to report the violence because they feel they will be judged by their sexual orientation. Another challenge in the GBLT community is that those in positions of authority, such as the police, judges, and prosecutors, may not be as eager to help a gay person versus someone who is straight. All of this puts much pressure on the victim to seek help and to get the services he or she needs.
The first thing the victim needs to do is recognize the abuse and violence for what it is. He or she must trust that leaving their partner will better their life, but that there will be short-term pain. He or she must face their fears which could stem from a fear of additional injury, lack of money, lack of resources or social pressure to stay with that partner.
Victims should find a few friends for support or go to an organized support group because these support groups will be crucial when the abuser become angry when the victim leaves. Organized support groups can be found within churches, community groups and service providers such as legal, health and counseling centers. Hotlines such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) can provide immediate support 24/7.
What is abuse?
Abuse is a pattern of controlling behavior used against another person. Abuse can include sexual violence, emotional abuse or intimidation, property/economic abuse and stalking.
Tips on Safety Planning for Domestic Violence
Tell Others. If you are being abused, you need to let your closest friends, neighbors and co-workers know about your situation. Confiding is doubly hard for gays and lesbians, so only confide in those who completely support you.
Beware of Personal Technology. Be sure you use computers, email accounts and telephones your partner doesn't have access to and you might be safer using the computers in the public library. Don't change your computer patterns because your abuser might suspect something is off if you delete your cookie history or if you erase your files. Texting is not the best way to tell your friends about your abuse; instead, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Put Together Your Emergency Bag. Gather your extra car keys, checkbooks, medicine, and important papers and give all of these valuables to a trusted friend so you may find your cache when you do leave the relationship
Know Your Dangers. If you want to leave your abusive relationship, know that the violence may increase. Go a relationship counselor and go over your escape plan with them so they can plot out your best route and give you support on where to stay next.
Go the Legal Route. Even if you have been intimidated by police in the past, go seek criminal charges against this person. At the very least, you can file in a civil court and receive a restraining/protective order which can even evict the victim.
For the GBLT community reporting abuse is a challenge, but partnering with the straight domestic violence community will build resources, awareness and action. It will also give confidence to the victims because they'll encounter people who have left their abusers and have survived to tell their story.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nancy_Travers
The first thing the victim needs to do is recognize the abuse and violence for what it is. He or she must trust that leaving their partner will better their life, but that there will be short-term pain. He or she must face their fears which could stem from a fear of additional injury, lack of money, lack of resources or social pressure to stay with that partner.
Victims should find a few friends for support or go to an organized support group because these support groups will be crucial when the abuser become angry when the victim leaves. Organized support groups can be found within churches, community groups and service providers such as legal, health and counseling centers. Hotlines such as the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) can provide immediate support 24/7.
What is abuse?
Abuse is a pattern of controlling behavior used against another person. Abuse can include sexual violence, emotional abuse or intimidation, property/economic abuse and stalking.
Tips on Safety Planning for Domestic Violence
Tell Others. If you are being abused, you need to let your closest friends, neighbors and co-workers know about your situation. Confiding is doubly hard for gays and lesbians, so only confide in those who completely support you.
Beware of Personal Technology. Be sure you use computers, email accounts and telephones your partner doesn't have access to and you might be safer using the computers in the public library. Don't change your computer patterns because your abuser might suspect something is off if you delete your cookie history or if you erase your files. Texting is not the best way to tell your friends about your abuse; instead, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Put Together Your Emergency Bag. Gather your extra car keys, checkbooks, medicine, and important papers and give all of these valuables to a trusted friend so you may find your cache when you do leave the relationship
Know Your Dangers. If you want to leave your abusive relationship, know that the violence may increase. Go a relationship counselor and go over your escape plan with them so they can plot out your best route and give you support on where to stay next.
Go the Legal Route. Even if you have been intimidated by police in the past, go seek criminal charges against this person. At the very least, you can file in a civil court and receive a restraining/protective order which can even evict the victim.
For the GBLT community reporting abuse is a challenge, but partnering with the straight domestic violence community will build resources, awareness and action. It will also give confidence to the victims because they'll encounter people who have left their abusers and have survived to tell their story.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Nancy_Travers
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Do You Really Know Who You're Dealing With
Sometimes in relationships you are quick to blame yourself for why it is your partner is mean or unfaithful to you. For those of you who are obsessive caretakers, you are quick to accept others faults and unfortunately their responsibilities. However, not everyone you might be dating or are in love with is fit to be with you. Sometimes other peoples issues go real deep and require much more than your love and acceptance. It might be that they're in need of professional help as well.
Monday, November 23, 2009
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Kids and Divorce - How to Help Them Cope
With so many marriages ending in divorce, many involving young children, parents are naturally worried about how to best protect their kids through the process. The key is in remembering that the divorce is not their fault, and that their mother and father will continue to always love them.
According to Allison Granite, MSW, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker who lives and works in Voorhees, NJ, "The most important thing parents can do to help ease kids through the divorce process is to constantly reassure them that their relationship with both parents is permanent and continuing."
Parents must try to put aside their own personal crisis, which is easier said than done. You should keep your kids included in the process as it relates to them. Tell them what to expect and give them enough time to process and talk about any major changes, such as a parent moving out of the marital home, before those changes happen. Parents need to be honest, but give age-appropriate answers when their children have questions about the divorce. Remember that although the marital relationship might end, responsible parenting must continue.
Here are a few steps that divorcing parents should consider at the start of the process:
• Consider mediation. In many cases it can be quicker, less costly and far less adversarial.
• Be financially aware. You will need to know what assets exist, how much they are worth and how much you owe.
• Know where your money goes. Checking account and credit card statements can help you pull together an accurate and realistic budget of what your family spends and what you will be able to afford in the future.
• Be realistic. It is unlikely that you will receive all the assets or all of your spouse's income. The process is intended to be fair to both sides.
• Keep the children out of the middle. No matter what your spouse's faults, the children deserve a relationship with both parent, and it is not their responsibility to negotiate the divorce.
• Select professionals to assist whom you understand and trust. Ask questions and listen to their advice. A good lawyer will outline the pros and cons of a decision and give reasoned advice.
No couple wants to get divorced, but when it is truly the best thing, you have to work very hard to make the transition as smooth as possible for yourself and especially your kids.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Terri_Akman
According to Allison Granite, MSW, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker who lives and works in Voorhees, NJ, "The most important thing parents can do to help ease kids through the divorce process is to constantly reassure them that their relationship with both parents is permanent and continuing."
Parents must try to put aside their own personal crisis, which is easier said than done. You should keep your kids included in the process as it relates to them. Tell them what to expect and give them enough time to process and talk about any major changes, such as a parent moving out of the marital home, before those changes happen. Parents need to be honest, but give age-appropriate answers when their children have questions about the divorce. Remember that although the marital relationship might end, responsible parenting must continue.
Here are a few steps that divorcing parents should consider at the start of the process:
• Consider mediation. In many cases it can be quicker, less costly and far less adversarial.
• Be financially aware. You will need to know what assets exist, how much they are worth and how much you owe.
• Know where your money goes. Checking account and credit card statements can help you pull together an accurate and realistic budget of what your family spends and what you will be able to afford in the future.
• Be realistic. It is unlikely that you will receive all the assets or all of your spouse's income. The process is intended to be fair to both sides.
• Keep the children out of the middle. No matter what your spouse's faults, the children deserve a relationship with both parent, and it is not their responsibility to negotiate the divorce.
• Select professionals to assist whom you understand and trust. Ask questions and listen to their advice. A good lawyer will outline the pros and cons of a decision and give reasoned advice.
No couple wants to get divorced, but when it is truly the best thing, you have to work very hard to make the transition as smooth as possible for yourself and especially your kids.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Terri_Akman
Thursday, November 5, 2009
Monday, November 2, 2009
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Sunday, October 25, 2009
The Affair - Why Men Don't Leave Their Wives
If you are in an affair with a married man then you may have asked yourself why men don't leave their wives? Married men rarely will truly leave their wives for their mistress. Even if they did what's to stop them from cheating on their mistress? Cheating is messy all around.
When a married man is looking to cheat he may not necessarily be looking to leave his wife. He may just be bored and he's looking for a distraction or some excitement. He may not want anything more than a fling although he will convince you otherwise to get what he wants. He will likely paint a less than loving picture of his wife so he looks like the neglected victim when in fact his situation may be nothing like that. He is manipulating the situation and you to get what he wants.
Would you consider having an affair with a married man that talks about how beautiful, sexy and wonderful his wife is? Probably not. Most men will lie about their situations to gain your compassion and attention. It's not that hard to believe. The reasons men cheat usually come down to the fact that their marriage has gotten stale and one or more of his needs (not just sexually) are not being met to his satisfaction. That's the same reason women cheat too.
Why don't men leave their wives? Although there may be problems in the marriage at the end of the day he likely still has feelings for his wife. If there are kids involved then this makes it all the messier and many men will not want to put their kids through a divorce.
If you are involved with a married man be aware that the chances of him leaving are slim, especially if there are kids involved. What's important is that you realize that he likely won't leave his family. Even if he did is this the type of guy you want to be involved with? You could be next.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Peter_Harris
When a married man is looking to cheat he may not necessarily be looking to leave his wife. He may just be bored and he's looking for a distraction or some excitement. He may not want anything more than a fling although he will convince you otherwise to get what he wants. He will likely paint a less than loving picture of his wife so he looks like the neglected victim when in fact his situation may be nothing like that. He is manipulating the situation and you to get what he wants.
Would you consider having an affair with a married man that talks about how beautiful, sexy and wonderful his wife is? Probably not. Most men will lie about their situations to gain your compassion and attention. It's not that hard to believe. The reasons men cheat usually come down to the fact that their marriage has gotten stale and one or more of his needs (not just sexually) are not being met to his satisfaction. That's the same reason women cheat too.
Why don't men leave their wives? Although there may be problems in the marriage at the end of the day he likely still has feelings for his wife. If there are kids involved then this makes it all the messier and many men will not want to put their kids through a divorce.
If you are involved with a married man be aware that the chances of him leaving are slim, especially if there are kids involved. What's important is that you realize that he likely won't leave his family. Even if he did is this the type of guy you want to be involved with? You could be next.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Peter_Harris
Monday, October 12, 2009
Is There A Cheating Gene
Just finished watching the Tyra Banks show. The topic was on cheating and if there was such a thing as a cheating gene. Evidently some scientist have discovered in male animals that cheating could be in the genes. Without getting into a huge debate on whether or not cheating is innate or learned, suffice it to say that it, like many other bad habits that we as humans adopt, can be controlled. The men and women who are busy doing the cheating and crying about it being in their genes are some of the same people who refuse to accept responsibility for their behavior. I suppose it's easier on the psyche to claim oneself a victim instead of recognizing that you're the one doing the victimizing.
There is a common theme not just with the guests on the Tyra show but with others in general when it comes to cheating. Past abuse and environmental conditions are two motivating factors when people cite the reasons why they continue to practice this dangerous behavior. Instead of looking for excuses to mask weaknesses, those who are suffering from this "cheating gene" should look to their past environment i.e., parents, peers, social surroundings, etc... And please get professional help!
There is a common theme not just with the guests on the Tyra show but with others in general when it comes to cheating. Past abuse and environmental conditions are two motivating factors when people cite the reasons why they continue to practice this dangerous behavior. Instead of looking for excuses to mask weaknesses, those who are suffering from this "cheating gene" should look to their past environment i.e., parents, peers, social surroundings, etc... And please get professional help!
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Friday, September 11, 2009
Saturday, May 9, 2009
Are You A Positive Contributor in Your Relationship
Maintaining a healthy relationship is a must if you cherish and love the person you're with. You can bet that when you start to take the object of your affection for granted your relationship will suffer. You work hard at your job, you exercise to maintain good health, and you make time for certain personal pleasures. Your relationship, too, deserves attention if it's to keep growing and evolving. Decide today that you will commitment time to work on your relationship by loving better, having fun together, and truly listening to one another.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Do You Choose Love or Does it Choose You
Love is energy. And just like a bad mood or a good move you attract to yourself what it is you think about, how you feel, and the actions you take. If you really want to be loved and to love in return, decide today to focus your attention on that end result. And you must remember to keep your mind, body, and spirit in the vibration of love because like energy attracts like energy.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Monday, May 4, 2009
Love is in the Air
Love is in the air ... I can feel it, smell it, sense it, and breathe it. Maybe it's in the way the trees are blowing or perhaps how it's raining one moment and the next, the sun is shining.
I can't really put my finger on it but there is definitely something great gaining momentum just beneath my radar sensor. Could it just be these awesome temperatures after a cold, cold winter or is it the fact that I'm finally focusing on me and taking care of my needs and desires.
Whatever that good vibe is that I keep intuiting I'm ready whenever you should make your entrance. I'm expecting you and preparing myself to welcome your presence because I know that when you fully arrive, you won't just linger in the air, you will be visible, real, and welcomed not only as a guest but as a gift.
I can't really put my finger on it but there is definitely something great gaining momentum just beneath my radar sensor. Could it just be these awesome temperatures after a cold, cold winter or is it the fact that I'm finally focusing on me and taking care of my needs and desires.
Whatever that good vibe is that I keep intuiting I'm ready whenever you should make your entrance. I'm expecting you and preparing myself to welcome your presence because I know that when you fully arrive, you won't just linger in the air, you will be visible, real, and welcomed not only as a guest but as a gift.
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Don’t Waste Your Life Trying to Get Back What was Taken From You
At the age of thirty something horrific happened to me. Actually, it was a combination of things that ended up burying me underneath an avalanche of emotional and physical pain. To this day, I still refer to it as my own personal life, 911 story. When I talk about it, it is that thing that happened that separated the before me from the today me.
It took me about seven years before I was really able to understand, accept, and release the events of that time in my life. I know now that sometimes you can be in the wrong place at the wrong time … or that the drama of those you surround yourself with can spill over and become your drama … or another individual will hurt you because they hate themselves, etc.,
Many of you had your innocence taken away from you long before you were emotionally mature. Maybe as a child you had to do things that only adults should be doing, like raising other children, emotionally caretaking for someone else, such as a parent, or having to assume the role of a parent.
I have yet to befriend a woman who hasn’t been sexually victimized at sometime in her life or who hasn’t experienced some kind of physical abuse at the hands of another. And for many of you, that event (or events) marks your own personal 911. Again, your life becomes a picture of the before and after you.
And unless the emotional healing has begun, many of you will live your life trying to get back to that other side; the side where you were still innocent, free, unashamed, happy, and open. I’ve learned through the process of healing that there is a process. I’ve learned that anger, denial, acceptance, bargaining, and depression are consistent companions during such times.
And although some of them are not the most attractive companions, they can end up being blessings in disguise if you don’t give up trying to get over that mountain of misery that has put you in complete darkness. The truth is there is no going back to being the person you were before your tragedy. This thing that happened, happened. And it can’t be undone. However, it can be seen for what it is in the light of your awareness that comes during the healing process.
Instead of spending your energies trying to recapture what could’ve been, should not have been, or might have become, exercise the power you have as a survivor and give your body and mind the permission it needs to heal from emotional and physical trauma. If you do it now, then you won’t have to spend the rest of your life in the dark with only your pain as your one and true companion.
It took me about seven years before I was really able to understand, accept, and release the events of that time in my life. I know now that sometimes you can be in the wrong place at the wrong time … or that the drama of those you surround yourself with can spill over and become your drama … or another individual will hurt you because they hate themselves, etc.,
Many of you had your innocence taken away from you long before you were emotionally mature. Maybe as a child you had to do things that only adults should be doing, like raising other children, emotionally caretaking for someone else, such as a parent, or having to assume the role of a parent.
I have yet to befriend a woman who hasn’t been sexually victimized at sometime in her life or who hasn’t experienced some kind of physical abuse at the hands of another. And for many of you, that event (or events) marks your own personal 911. Again, your life becomes a picture of the before and after you.
And unless the emotional healing has begun, many of you will live your life trying to get back to that other side; the side where you were still innocent, free, unashamed, happy, and open. I’ve learned through the process of healing that there is a process. I’ve learned that anger, denial, acceptance, bargaining, and depression are consistent companions during such times.
And although some of them are not the most attractive companions, they can end up being blessings in disguise if you don’t give up trying to get over that mountain of misery that has put you in complete darkness. The truth is there is no going back to being the person you were before your tragedy. This thing that happened, happened. And it can’t be undone. However, it can be seen for what it is in the light of your awareness that comes during the healing process.
Instead of spending your energies trying to recapture what could’ve been, should not have been, or might have become, exercise the power you have as a survivor and give your body and mind the permission it needs to heal from emotional and physical trauma. If you do it now, then you won’t have to spend the rest of your life in the dark with only your pain as your one and true companion.
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Does Changing Your Actions Change Your Feelings
Remember being a child and having your parents punish you for doing something that they thought was outside of the range of acceptability. Maybe you harassed your little sister or cut the cable to the only television set you had in the house. Not only did they inform you more than a thousand times what it was you did wrong but they went to every length to make sure you didn’t repeat what it was you did.
At the time, you understood that your parents were punishing you for doing something that you felt impelled to do. To the mind of a child, this was inconceivable because how else were you supposed to act if not from a feeling place. As a child, you didn’t rationalize your actions. You weren’t focused on the fact that if you pushed one sibling down the stairs that your parents would even the score in the end.
Where kids are kids, adults can be adults and unfortunately, many folk haven’t changed from doing some pretty outrageous things. People can get a free pass up until a point but eventually excuses don’t cover the cost of loss, pain, and shame. For example, take the teenager who decides to send nude pictures of herself via a text message or the internet.
When that teen grows up she will move to higher grounds of inappropriate expressions unless she is able to change the feelings that lay at the base of her actions. You’ve heard the saying that where there’s smoke, there’s fire. And you can bet that where there are teens misbehaving there is some resistance to some internal feeling. Unfortunately, lots of parents are unaware that their teen’s actions are an indication of how they are feeling and that there’s possibly something seriously wrong.
What needs to be addressed is your feelings and how you got to feeling the way you feel. This method works. If the real cause beneath your actions is not uncovered, then you are compelled to act in a reactionary fashion to outer events that are not necessarily connected to your most charitable response. In essence, you’re not afraid to show emotions, but the ones you show are childish, juvenile, sophomoric, and not really well thought out … pretty much like when you’re a child, a pre-teen, or even more so, an immature adult.
At the time, you understood that your parents were punishing you for doing something that you felt impelled to do. To the mind of a child, this was inconceivable because how else were you supposed to act if not from a feeling place. As a child, you didn’t rationalize your actions. You weren’t focused on the fact that if you pushed one sibling down the stairs that your parents would even the score in the end.
Where kids are kids, adults can be adults and unfortunately, many folk haven’t changed from doing some pretty outrageous things. People can get a free pass up until a point but eventually excuses don’t cover the cost of loss, pain, and shame. For example, take the teenager who decides to send nude pictures of herself via a text message or the internet.
When that teen grows up she will move to higher grounds of inappropriate expressions unless she is able to change the feelings that lay at the base of her actions. You’ve heard the saying that where there’s smoke, there’s fire. And you can bet that where there are teens misbehaving there is some resistance to some internal feeling. Unfortunately, lots of parents are unaware that their teen’s actions are an indication of how they are feeling and that there’s possibly something seriously wrong.
What needs to be addressed is your feelings and how you got to feeling the way you feel. This method works. If the real cause beneath your actions is not uncovered, then you are compelled to act in a reactionary fashion to outer events that are not necessarily connected to your most charitable response. In essence, you’re not afraid to show emotions, but the ones you show are childish, juvenile, sophomoric, and not really well thought out … pretty much like when you’re a child, a pre-teen, or even more so, an immature adult.
Sunday, April 26, 2009
Who Do The Lonely Love
We live on a planet full of people. People who have different belief systems, religions, morals, ethics, devotions, visions, etc … It would seem that with the number of people inhabiting our planet almost everyone has someone that they can not only depend on but who they love and is loved in return.
This will probably come as a news flash to a lot of people but the fact is we live on a lonely planet. So many people are busy trying to get their external needs met at the expense of what truly matters that eventually they end up feeling lonely, isolated, and invisible.
When you think of the lonely you think of the homeless man or woman on the streets or the prostitute or drug addict who no longer has a family. Rarely do you consider that the lonely are the people you’re engaged with on a daily bases. It’s the guy who’s your boss. You know, the man who works seventy hours a week to make the big bucks so that he can impress his extended family.
Is it possible that to you, the lonely are those single and frumpy women who live alone in their flats with just a cat and possibly a goldfish? In fact, the lonely are more often than not those people you try very hard not to be. So you surround yourself with lots of “friends.” You date even when you don’t want to date. You have sex with strangers just so you don’t feel so alone.
Who do the lonely love? They love people like you and me. They are the people like you and me. It is mind boggling how so many people on such a small planet can feel so alone but many of them do. The need to love and be love is such a powerful force that no matter your race, status, class, gender, profession, or background, if you aren’t loved for the person you are, you’re bound to end up feeling lonely.
This will probably come as a news flash to a lot of people but the fact is we live on a lonely planet. So many people are busy trying to get their external needs met at the expense of what truly matters that eventually they end up feeling lonely, isolated, and invisible.
When you think of the lonely you think of the homeless man or woman on the streets or the prostitute or drug addict who no longer has a family. Rarely do you consider that the lonely are the people you’re engaged with on a daily bases. It’s the guy who’s your boss. You know, the man who works seventy hours a week to make the big bucks so that he can impress his extended family.
Is it possible that to you, the lonely are those single and frumpy women who live alone in their flats with just a cat and possibly a goldfish? In fact, the lonely are more often than not those people you try very hard not to be. So you surround yourself with lots of “friends.” You date even when you don’t want to date. You have sex with strangers just so you don’t feel so alone.
Who do the lonely love? They love people like you and me. They are the people like you and me. It is mind boggling how so many people on such a small planet can feel so alone but many of them do. The need to love and be love is such a powerful force that no matter your race, status, class, gender, profession, or background, if you aren’t loved for the person you are, you’re bound to end up feeling lonely.
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