Why Your Mate is a Cheater - Part Five

In previous articles we discussed various reasons why it is your mate is a cheater. In this article we will focus on one of the reasons that I believe rank the highest when it comes to why people cheat.

First, let's establish the fact that cheating is wrong. I'm not basing this statement on some religious conviction. My point in saying that cheating is wrong is because it's a deceptive practice, one that is rooted in dishonesty, manipulation, and disloyalty. And when it's carried out over and over again despite those who are affected it becomes abusive from a physical and emotional standpoint.

When a man or woman decides to cheat because they would rather not tell the truth or because they want to have their cake and to eat it too and could care less about whom it is they hurt, that individual is lost to self.

They are lost because no one in their right mind would find it necessary to be deceptive to someone who loves them and treats them right just to find sex somewhere else. Whether it's a sexual addiction coupled with a total lack of self-awareness, the fact is that your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend, has a problem that is not yours to fix.

And unless they go through years of soul searching and begin doing the practices that many people do everyday throughout their lives, there is little reason to believe that they will come to know who they are even if they immediately stop cheating.

How often have you heard it said that your weight or your drinking is not the real problem? And in this case, the cheating is not the real problem. It is only a symptom of the problem. The problem is your lack of self-awareness and the unfortunate fact that you have yet to meet the real you underneath the baggage that needs a spiritual, inner intervention if you are ever going to be real with yourself and others.