Friday, January 22, 2010

10 Breakup Depression Tips

No matter what anybody tells you, life is a big, flat out mess when you're dealing with a breakup. Every song playing on the radio is a boyfriend breakup song or a breakup girlfriend song. Every couple that you witness holding hands or kissing makes you dog mad. Your friends aren't helpful either because all they want you to do is get over it so everybody can just go back to having fun.

But, oddly, things are different for you. The smell of nature isn't the same and the sky has lost its luminous appeal. You feel heavy and worn out by life's ups and downs when it comes to love and you're at a loss of where to turn or what to do. Secretly, you make a pack with yourself to never be so stupid as to fall in love again.

Sadly, you continue on going throughout your days on automatic pilot feeling very sorry for yourself. You don't know the first thing about how to deal with a breakup or much less, how to get over someone. In the past when you've found yourself in this situation, you never reasoned your way out or tried a different approach. You just decided that that was the end and now you stand having lost more than you gain.

And to make matters worse, you sat around every chance you had and replayed that breakup line s/he fed you, over and over again in your head. How it wasn't that s/he didn't love you, but how s/he couldn't be with someone the family wouldn't approve of. You just don't understand why it is that your partner can't see why love between two people shouldn't be held prisoner by what others think.

You may feel that your partner will eventually come to see that your love is worth keeping but until that happens, what do you do in the meantime to ease the emotional pain that you're under? If you are depressed over a recent breakup and desperately need a release, implement these 10 breakup depression tips for immediate effect.

1. Do not text or call your ex
2. Make friends outside of your inner circle if they are also friends of your ex
3. Start making plans for your future
4. Take a vacation with friends or family
5. Begin a new hobby like indoor racquetball, darts, swimming, etc...
6. Start journaling so that you can have a place to express your inner thoughts
7. Let go of any resentment or anger you may feel towards your ex
8. If you see your ex, behave as if you have moved on with your life
9. Stop acting like a victim
10. Forgive yourself

Now keep in mind that by following these tips you may be summoning your ex to come back. The beauty about this plan of action is not only does it help you by getting you to own your power but it also puts you in a position of power. You are no longer at the beck and call of someone else. Instead, you choose your direction.

Felecia Townsend is a relationship enthusiast and personal coach. She has spent years learning the art of successful relationships and through her philanthropic writing is giving back to the community that has given her so much.

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