Sunday, December 14, 2008

Seven Reasons Why People Cheat

Obviously there are more than seven reasons why people cheat but I have found that these seven reason are pretty much universal to all cheaters. I've been involved with cheaters and it's not such a good feeling.

You start off wondering if it's your fault, did you drive them to cheat on you. But when it's all said and done you did not make your husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, or wife step out on you. You are not responsible for their actions of infidelity.

Relationships are hard. And unfortunately too many people get involved or married under the illusion that everything from now on will somehow be the fairytale phase. Humm... wonder where they got that idea? Nevertheless, people can be quite lazy when it comes to doing things outside of their comfort zone. Too many people think that they are just fine and that they don't need any change or help and if there is some discomfort in their lives it's due to the fact of someone else.

Such people do not take responsibility for their actions and will instead blame someone else. So if you are involved with such a person and they have blamed their behavior on something that you have done or didn't do, don't fall for the lies. Recognize the fact that people cheat and will cheat and in the end it isn't about you. It is all about them and here are the reasons why:

Lack of Integrity (find a dictionary and look the word integrity up and think about this one)

Selfishness (it’s all about what they want even if it’s at the expense of someone else, including that new and more exciting “friend.”)

Extremely low self-esteem
Emotional Immaturity
Lack of Self-Awareness

Cheaters really need a lot of psychological help through counseling and life style changes if there is any help for emotional maturity. Unfortunately, we live in a society that encourages and silently approves of males sleeping around as if it was in their genes. All of those lies are just excuses to make men feel good about being emotionally immature.

If you date or are married to a cheater these days it could cost you more than your state of happiness, it could cost you your life.

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