Monday, March 23, 2009

5 Reasons Why You Remain in A Bad Relationship

Whether it’s five or ten reasons, remaining inside of a bad relationship is toxic to your spirit. Just think of all the joyless days that pass you. Is this the way you want to live the rest of your life? Are you willing to stay in a bad relationship just because you can’t think of a reason not to?

Obviously you’re not alone. It seems that just about everyone has lost her (or his) mind. Well, maybe not everyone. Fifty percent got the message but only after a bitter divorce, joint custody, attorney fees, property loss, etc …

Maybe you’re not married but desperately want to be. Well, there is a fifty percent chance that you’ll also desperately want a divorce. Some people don’t believe in divorce which brings me to the five common reasons why people remain in bad relationships.

• Don’t believe in divorce
• Have no other place to go
• Financial Dependence
• Don’t want to be alone
• Fear

It’s a fact that when some people marry they do so with the intentions that it’s for life. For these people there is no turning back. He can cheat on her a thousand times with any man, woman, or child and she won’t leave. He could be injecting drugs and sleeping with prostitutes. Through the good and the bad … this hell is not only his faith but hers as well.

Are you in a bad relationship because you have nowhere else to go? Unfortunately, what happens over time is that your network of friends will start to dissipate. And what friends you do have are equally shared between the two of you, making it harder to find someone to turn to when times are bad.

There is no excuse for staying in a bad relationship. When you sacrifice your happiness for financial security, in the end you lose. You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness and your own life.

Thinking that nobody else can know you as intimately as your mate does … believing that you’ll never find a more likely connection with another person … feeling as if no one else will want you … These are some of the fears surrounding your mind and heart; Fears that are keeping you resistant to change and growth.

Society, the church, the media, your parents, your friends and even people who don’t know you think that you must be paired up with another individual to be happy and complete. Being alone or single in today’s society is like a curse that nobody wants. So you keep holding on to a bad relationship that is destroying your chances of peace for the sake of not being left alone … with the curse.

Letting go of a bad relationship won’t be easy especially when you love the other person. But it’s worth facing your fears of “what if” and “what about” to get to the other side of misery. That is unless you don’t think you deserve it. I think being happy is your birthright. But it really doesn’t matter what I think because it’s ultimately up to you to create that reality for yourself.

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